Rude people are everywhere. And dealing with them is one of the most challenging things we have to do on a daily basis! Not only is it a difficult challenge, but it’s also an exhausting one.
If it were up to me, running away from them while screaming would be considered a great idea. But remember, great doesn’t mean it’s plausible or acceptable. So even though you may not always be able to avoid rude people, there are a few things you can do to make dealing with them a bit easier.
GIVE THEM THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT
Giving them the benefit of the doubt shows sympathy; that you try to see the bigger picture for what it really is. In other words, you try and understand why the person is being rude.
Mentioning to someone who is being rude that you too have had bad days, will show them you understand. It won’t calm down someone who is rude to the core, but if it’s a momentary lapse in manners, they will most likely apologise. Then it’s up to you to accept and move on.
If they get angrier, let it go. It’s best to choose your battles when there’s nothing more you can do.
CALL THEM OUT ON THEIR BEHAVIOUR
Sometimes it’s impossible to get away from someone that is consistently rude to you. In cases like these, it’s time to speak up. As difficult as it may be, it’s necessary for your own well-being.
Take the time to ask them if they realise that what they say or do shows a lack of respect for others. Some people don’t notice that they are being rude. If they care, they will try to be more polite. If they don’t, limit your contact with them as much as possible.
You’re an adult. You are allowed to make decisions according to what is best for you. And sometimes it’s best to walk away from rude people and spare yourself the trouble.
DON’T GIVE THEM AIRTIME
The reality is, some people will never change and talking about them won’t help either. If someone comes to you to talk about the latest thing Captain Rude has done, change the topic. Discussing their behaviour is a waste of breath and may come across as gossip, which is also rude.
OFFER EXTRA KINDNESS
For many, this will be impossible when the rudeness is too much to bear. However, if you work hard on keeping your head up and setting a positive example, the other person may change their act.
Just remember that one person can only help another change when they are open and willing. So no matter the obstacle they throw at you, be true to yourself and stay kind. Who knows? Maybe your kindness will annoy them so much, they will be the ones avoiding you. Talk about a win-win situation!