As a kid, you can’t wait to grow up. Then you move out of parents’ house and realise how stupid you were; wishing you could turn back time. And of all the things I wanted to do, becoming an adult is the dumbest thing I have ever done.
We don’t realise the amount of effort it takes to be a responsible grown up and to make the right decisions. We’re convinced that once we’re older and (maybe) wiser, we will have life figured out. And if you admit that you don’t, it’s frowned upon.
So frown away because I’m – what you can call – an adult. And do I know what I’m doing? No. But I do have four myths about being an adult that need busting.
1. YOU WILL HAVE THINGS FIGURED OUT
I used to look at adults as the people who had life figured out, but once you join this “elite” group of people you start to understand it’s not the case.
Adults get themselves into the same trouble as kids. The only difference is that we’re expected to sort out our problems on our own. And this is when you actually realise that nobody really knows what they’re doing. We’re all just trying to make the best of what life has to offer.
2. YOU KNOW WHAT YOUR LIFE WILL BE LIKE
We are often convinced that if you plan your life, you will know what it would be like. Yes, but that’s until life decides to throw you (with) a curve ball.
We can plan as much as we like, but that doesn’t mean life is going to go according to that plan. It’s in these moments when life chose a different route when I started to understand that life is like driving at night.
When you drive in the dark, your headlights don’t show the whole road ahead of you. Only a few kilometres – which means you can only work on that one thing in front of you. And as you move on, the next part of the road becomes clear.
3. YOU WILL HAVE THE PERFECT JOB
The truth? It is possible! But it takes a lot of hard work and a lot of perseverance to get the “perfect” job. This is only if you look at the word perfect as: maybe working with that extremely annoying colleague, working for less money than you hoped for, or spending less time on other things you love.
4. YOU WILL HAVE MORE FREEDOM
As kids, we think we will have more freedom when we grow up. And yes, you can make your own decisions without having to listen to your mom or dad. But now you’re the one who has to ask if it’s responsible or not!
The thing about freedom is that it’s never 100% free. Something’s got to give. Want to stay true to yourself as an artist or writer? Then sometimes you’re going to choose the cause-driven project over the money-making project.
Being an adult is tough and there are two sides to every coin, but to quote Monica Gellar,
“Welcome to the real world! It sucks. You’re going to love it!”