If you stumbled upon this article hoping to learn how to be successful in your career or relationship, this is not it.
As I find myself at another crossroad in life; wondering what path I should take next, I’m haunted by society’s recipe of what my life is supposed to look like. To be successful you must be married by a certain age, have kids before a certain age, and have your career figured out when you reach a certain age.
If this is true, it’s time for me to throw my pirate patch overboard and walk the plank. Arrrr? But this ridiculous “life recipe” got me thinking. We are so focused on how to become the most successful business owner or the most successful parent. But we forgot to become successful humans; good human beings who love and respect others despite differences.
So I decided to compile a list of – what I believe are – the habits of successful humans.
1. THEY ARE OPEN MINDED
Being open-minded means you’re willing to listen and put aside your preconceived judgement – whether that person in front of you is different in race, religion, or sexual orientation.
In short, you try to understand where they’re coming from and know that because they are different from you, doesn’t mean they’re wrong.
2. THEY HAVE BOUNDARIES
The wise, old Aristotle said it is “the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it”. And to listen to someone doesn’t mean you’re agreeing with what they say. It means you know the world isn’t just black and white.
With this understanding, you know you have the choice to not agree, step away, and let them be.
3. THEY CHOOSE THEIR BATTLES
Some problems (and people with destructive opinions) aren’t important in the long run and don’t deserve your energy. And I’m not saying you shouldn’t stand up for what you believe in but if the price to pay is bigger than the reward, it’s not worth it.
4. THEY DON’T PLEASE PEOPLE
First things first, pleasing people and helping people are two very different concepts. Don’t get it confused. But to get back to my point, successful humans don’t please people. The truth is you can’t please everyone because apparently, you’re not a pizza and if you were, you would still have a problem: the “whole world” is gluten intolerant.
5. THEY SHARE THEIR SUCCESS
This one is quite obvious, but successful humans know you don’t reach the top without support. And they want others to succeed too!
6. THEY ARE SPIRITUAL
This doesn’t just mean religion. It can also mean setting time aside for reflection through meditation or yoga.
Not only does spirituality offer you an unplugging ritual; giving you time to rest and gain insight on your life, but it also forms the foundation of your values – which serves as our moral compass when we make decisions in our professional and personal lives.
7. THEY LIVE THEIR OWN JOURNEY
Successful humans don’t compare themselves to other people. They understand that because everyone is different, their journey will also be different and that is okay.